You know how at 15, you really couldn’t wait to be 18 and finally considered to be an adult. With all the perks and all of the freedom associated with it. It really was one of those things I used to look forward to when I was younger. I just couldn’t wait for it.
And then I turned 26 and all of that changed abruptly.
I started knowing and I started feeling the fear that comes with getting older.
Life gave me a check like “Girl…your youth is almost over”. What have you been doing with all of that time? You have lots of goals you aren’t even close to achieving. Your finances are still not as fat as you planned for it to be. You’re SINGLE and according to the plan, 25 was that perfect year you were supposed to get MARRIED.
Sis, your time is running out. Because I mean you have about 4 years left to put all of these together. And if that time elapses before you achieve all of these, your life is simply over.
SIGH….
You cannot have these type of thoughts running through your head and not get depressed or feel like a failure. All because you’re nearing your 30’s and not near where you planned to be.
I personally became a total mess with tripled anxiety all because of a societal conditioning. A conditioning which implies 29 to be the last and final window to get your life sorted out.
Anything from then onwards, your life begins to go downhill because you’ve lost your chance. And you’re going to be poor forever.
“Says the little meanie called Life”
But, who actually set the rule, I asked myself. Who put a limit to the time available to achieving goals? Who made 30 the last and final age a woman should have her dating life sorted out? How did 30 become that age a woman automatically looses all her hotness and beauty?
Like doesn’t this even depend on genetics, lifestyle and your diet.
I don’t know but I think some people get off seeing single women in their 30’s with low self esteem. I mean a woman could have all the achievements in the world at 30, but still get regarded lesser by the society. Because she is unmarried.
I’m all for marriage and the beauty that exists in partnership. But if it simply hasn’t happened for you, does that mean life as you see it, is over ? Should you lose hope and fall into depression?
I am presently 2 years and 4 months away from turning 30. And right now, I’m all about counting my blessings and taking everyday as it comes. So instead of running a race to achieve success before I turn 30, I’m living instead to have my life count for something all the days of my life. Doing things I love, things that bring me joy. And things that bring me happiness.
All these I achieved through lots of deep thinking and self reflections which helped me redirect my steps. And focus on things that would actually count for something in the long run. Which are the little steps I take everyday towards a secure, stable and self fulfilling future.
How do you handle the fear that comes with getting older ? Can you please share in the comments. I’d like to hear from you.
